Maintain perspective. Perceive carefully.
That's my mantra for this year.
Maintain the perspective of where I am versus where others are, both in the effort to cut down comparison and to realize how fortunate I am.
Perception is tricky because things are rarely as they appear. By treading carefully in what I'm assuming (because perceive and assume are pretty much the same thing), I'm not going to be making up a story in my head.
After all, things are rarely as they seem, right?
A lot of people have been recapping 2016; highs, lows, victories, disappointments, etc. I read a post that said something about the year having "deep heartache" but the details about the year were all good things...confusing, right? This is where perspective could come in. I don't know that person's story and maybe they are choosing to make it more tragic in title or less tragic in details; I don't actually know.
I find it very hard to recap or judge a year if it's a deployment year, and 2016 was a deployment year. Scott left in February and came home in November. The year, therefore, exists kind of on the outside of the continuum of good/bad year. It's an outlier. 2012 was an outlier too, for this reason. They're difficult to place in the grand scheme of things.
In thinking about it, the years in my adult life go like this:
2014-ugh (I hated this year so much...I can't even give definitive reasons, but it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.)
It's oddly telling, as I told Scott, that a deployment year ranks higher on the likability list than the last two years.
In the end, I know 2016 was hard on many of us for different reasons. I'd never belittle anyone's reasons for liking or disliking a year, but this is where I put on my perspective hat and zoom out a bit. While we may not all be well and good with some things that happened throughout the year, we made it through and I don't think it's "literally" been the worst year "ever".