I would come back to this thought every few months,
However, I think I know now. I don't know that this is something you can pin down when you're 25 years old. I feel like you need to be able to have some life experience under your belt; to know how you react to certain circumstances, to know what makes you tick. These things aren't always evident right away.
After listening to Gretchen Rubin's podcast episode on this topic a few weeks ago, I really started wondering about it again. I put myself in different situations, thinking about what made me happy and what just rolled off my back.
I think I'm Acts of Service. I appreciate the little things. The easiest way to get me on your side is to do something nice for me. I think we're all a little bit Words of Affirmation, but I'd rather have someone do something for me than tell me I did a good job. Words can be empty, you know?
Where this really comes in is that whatever our particular language is, that's what we tend to display to others because we understand it. Therefore, I'm all about Acts of Service. I pack Scott's lunch, I make dinner, I put clothes away and prep the things he needs for each next day as naturally as I do for myself. It's just part of my routine. When he can't find something, I know where it is (usually). Does he always appreciate this as much as I would? I know he's grateful, but he doesn't react the way I would because he's not Acts of Service. That MY language.
Well. He's definitely into Words of Affirmation and I'm, for a teacher, remarkably bad at telling people what they need to hear. It just doesn't come naturally to me. I'm one of those people who never knows the right thing to say. I'm getting better at it, I think. Or maybe worse. I can't really tell. It depends on the situation.
What's your love language?