My weekend outfit: cleanest hat of Scott's I can adopt as my own, awesome vest (similar) with zip pockets to keep my phone secure as I work outside, and remote for dog collars.
I feel like my weekends are verrrry different from most military wives'.
When Scott's here, I default to him. I don't know if this is because we got married before I had a chance to really adult things on my own or what. It's a possibility.
(Side note: I realize that many women are single and independent. I think I'm just drawing the comparison to Hey, I married you, so I thought you'd be around being how it works when a couple gets married. It's not that we all aren't capable of doing many of the tasks I default on. We're all definitely are as capable as we choose to be :)
But from the day we got married, I've been semi-on my own. I never know when he's going to be here and when he's not going to be here. The classic military wife story, right? I've obviously learned how to adapt in one way or another.
But once in a while, I make a strong showing of my capability. I don't want to (ever) do things by myself because I'm bad at things. I haven't properly learned how to work a drill, for example. But necessity is the mother of invention, so needs must and all that (I feel like that's likely an Ingalls or Wilder quote).
I found myself at Lowe's one Monday afternoon buying liquid nail because the rubber seal had come off the bottom of the new door and needed to be reattached. I knew Scott had used liquid nail the first time to put it on, and I also realized that was the last of the liquid nail. I spent $2.48 on another tube and managed to open it without destroying it (you'd be surprised how many tubes of sealants I've destroyed because I couldn't quite get them open....) and then put it in the dispenser (something I've never done) and then put it on the rubber seal, and then reattached the seal, and then propped a bunch of wood scraps underneath the door to press it tight and then left the door open for half an hour so it could dry...
You get the idea.
This is just an example of how I'm capable when I want to be. But I always default to having someone else do things for me because it's out of my comfort zone and I'm really bad at figuring things out on my own. If Scott had been here, I would've sent him a text that might've said Get more liquid nail. Seal fell off door. Also, stop for Culver's please.
But that totally wasn't an option and I'm saving my I need your husband to help me emergency text to my friend for an actual emergency. I do default to the neighbors when there's a dog emergency or something. And if something serious happened I know they would help in a heartbeat. Living next to southerners is wonderful.
In reality, I try to be as careful as possible so things don't break and I don't have to worry about fixing them. That's always been my strategy during deployments.